01 DECEMBER
Education Behavior Suggestion for Parents to Solve the Preschool Children Conflict and Case Analysis
Many parents don’t feel free to let their children to solve problems independently and often help to solve the conflicts. We suggest our parents to let children to learn in the process themselves.
(1) Parents should correct their view on children's conflict
Influenced by traditional ideas, many parents believe that conflict is a kind of negative behavior and try to avoid it. In fact, the conflict is the key element to help a young child to learn to gradually adopt others’ opinions and form a foundation for his interpersonal ability.
(2) Parents should provide young children the opportunity to solve conflicts themselves
Some parents focus on how to "avoid" but not solve conflicts such as buying more toys than needed to avoid the conflict when children play together and this deprives a child of opportunity to learn to share and to be considerate of others. Even if the children did not resolve the conflict well, the experience of failure is also a kind of accumulation.
(3) Parents have unconsciously influence on children
Family environment, parents’ attitudes and social styles have key influences on children’s behaviors.
(4) Parents should give skillful guidance to children if necessary
Parents can give skillful guidance and show their children what to do in real cases but let them solve the problems themselves which can get the best affection.
Case One:
Peter and Tom were scrambling for a small train toy. Peter punched Tom. Tom’s mom saw it and came to ask why these two friends were fighting. Peter said Tom would not like to share the toy. Tom’s mom turned to Tom and said: Tom, we talked this before right? You can get more fun by sharing toys with other friends, playing alone is not fun at all, let us play together, ok? Tom nodded, and his mom helped to set up a game and these little friends played together again happily.
